4D

oh ya, for those of you who are on your way,this year to start your age with the digit 4_yrs, a big & warm welcome to you. Selamat datai to kelab 40s....I still qualify to be in this club,at least until August,next year,if the Lord is willing. For late starters, this is a good age to get rolling. Somebody in D's longhouse got married when he was 40 & he wasted no time in producing heirs. He has just retired at 56,his eldest son should be in Form 4 and the second son should be in Form 2. Of course, he probably regretted marrying late,but I guess it's better than not being married and not having any children.
For some, being 40 would mean trying to do things better than one did for the last 10 years when one was 30. Like me,I wanted to make good a life worth living upon reaching 40..trying to set a good example for my growing children by being 'old'. No 'defining' moment has happened from age 40 up til now but I thank the good Lord for everything good I have, that comes from Him.
Take one day at a time..if you have been the 'hu..hu..ha..ha.." person all these times, take a break...especially if the children are teenagers. This is the most crucial time to mould them because its that period whereby their hormones are either working for them or against them. I have 2 friends who have been shedding tears after their children got their PMR results recently. One blamed about being left alone to look after 4 children while her husband went offshore to work whereas the other one has been leaving her son to do as he pleases all these times that it becomes almost impossible to discipline him...instead her son always tells her off.
I find that at every stage of a child's life, parents have to deal with different set of problems. If one has not been attentive to one's children,please make an effort because once the children finish SPM, you cannot take back the lost years. They would be doing things on their own,going their own way,attending tertiary education elsewhere and you only get to see them during their semester breaks. Believe me,the road that we take raising our children is long and winding...at times, the ride may be bumpy but hold on tight,by God's Grace,one would be alright.
Move with the flow of things..must not jump over-board. Life is a learning experience;nobody in her/his right frame of mind knows what the future holds,except God,our Heavenly Father.